“Number one: consent … and number two is lighting,” laughs Ally Oliver-Perham.
She’s the project manager at the Victorian Women’s Trust and co-founder of Rosie.org.au (an online lifestyle resource for young women), and her rules for sending a good sext are pretty simple.
While it may still be considered taboo to sext — send and receive (usually DIY) sexually explicit content via digital platforms or mobile phones — there’s no denying that many people do it.
triple j’s recent What’s Up in Your World Survey, which surveyed 11,000 Australians between the ages of 18 and 29, found that 61 per cent of young Aussies have sent at least one naked selfie.
Sex therapist Chantelle Otten thinks this is no bad thing.
“I think that sexting can be really great, and I even encourage some of my patients,” she says.
“If they’re really into their partner and they’re trying to amp things up a little bit during the day, it can be a really good method of foreplay.”